Friend Zone

I was on my way back from LAX this mornig and while listening to the radio...I heard a guy talking about the "Friend Zone"

Now we have all been in the dreaded Friend zone at one point in our lives,probably more than once.And we let outselves stay there for one reason and one reason only..that glimmer of hope that almost every Cameron Diaz,Julia Roberts or Jennifer Aniston movie shows us...Eventually we will get out of it..But most times more than not.

But anyhow...I know this girl..and she is a very attractive young lady,fuh show.And she has many guys in the FZ.And she's married.Now I know she is an attention hound..but still having a bunch of guys in the FZ will do you no good..especially when they all have your cell number or are your friends on myspace.The biggest danger in being friends with someone who is attracted to you..is that they are attraced to you and will take whatever attention they can get...be it a chatroom,page posting,text back,lunch,having a drink at a bar..whatever.And it can come back to bite you.

What happens if said friend goes and talks about his great lunch date to a friend,who knows the other's other.Anger jealously and mistrust abound..right?And that friend will have wrecked your relationship.Now this girl I know has had it happen many times,and yet she still keeps going..why..because"I am going to have my friends no what they say."And while true..maybe you should keep the interaction between yourself and this friend to a minimum if you want to make your marraige work.

That is just one example..I'm sure we all have friends that are in the FZ,known and unknown.

Should we change the way we interact with the known FZ'ers?Maybe because they may get the wrong idea and something worse may happen?Or they may post something on FB or MS,and they other may see it,and arguments may occur..

or should they just stay in the zone as a backup?